You Ghosted Your Therapist... Now What?
It happens. Life gets busy, schedules shift, or maybe something uncomfortable came up in session, and you ghosted your therapist. Now, after some time has passed, you might find yourself wanting to resume therapy but feeling anxious about reaching out. Maybe you’re worried about how your therapist will react, or you’re uncertain if working with them again is the right call. Perhaps you’re even wondering if it’s time to find someone new. If any of this sounds familiar, know that we *completely* understand. As therapists, we don’t take it personally when clients pause or step away. Our primary goal is to help you find what works best for your healing, even if that means reconnecting with us or exploring new options.
1. No biggie!
Before diving into logistics, it’s important to acknowledge that taking a break from therapy is absolutely normal! People pause therapy for all kinds of reasons, from feeling too overwhelmed to making changes that disrupt routines. Therapy is a process, not a linear path. Ask yourself: *What was going on when I stopped?* This reflection can provide insight on whether or not you’re wanting to return, and help you approach therapy with more clarity this time around.
2. Consider Your Needs Now
You’ve changed since your last session. Maybe you’ve developed new coping skills, or perhaps things have gotten harder. Reflect on your current needs. Ask yourself: *What do I want out of therapy right now? What am I struggling with or hoping to gain?* Whether you’re looking for emotional support, tools for managing stress, or deeper self-discovery, having a clear sense of your goals can guide your decision about re-engaging with therapy.
3. Should You Return to Your Previous Therapist?
This is one of the biggest questions people wrestle with after taking a break. Returning to a familiar face can feel comforting, but it’s not always the best fit. Reflect on your past experience. Ask yourself: *Did I feel heard and supported? Was I making progress?* If the relationship felt positive but you simply drifted off due to life’s chaos, reaching back out could be as easy as sending an email. Your therapist will understand—it’s more common than you think. We want what’s best for you and will happily support whatever decision feels right for you at this stage.
4. When It’s Time to Find Someone New
There are also moments when a fresh start makes sense. If you felt like your previous therapist wasn’t the right fit or that the relationship became stagnant, it might be time to explore new options. Ask yourself: *Am I looking for a different approach or expertise? Do I need someone with experience in a particular area like trauma, ADHD, or disordered eating?* Therapy is deeply personal, and it’s okay to search for someone who aligns with where you are now. We get that you might feel unsure, and we’re here to support you in finding the right path, even if it leads you to another therapist.
5. Taking the First Step
No matter whether you decide to reach out to your previous therapist or find someone new, the most important thing is taking that first step. It’s normal to feel nervous or unsure—just remember that therapy is for *you*. If you’re leaning toward reconnecting with your old therapist, an honest conversation can clear the air and give you both a chance to restart. If you’re searching for someone new, consider scheduling consultations to see who feels like the best fit for this stage of your journey.
The therapeutic relationship is meant to be flexible and meet your evolving needs. Taking a break doesn’t have to mean goodbye forever; it can simply be a pause before a new chapter begins.
